Prompt #71Return to Work
Prompt 71: The "I Want to Be Recognized" Negotiation
When to use it
You're back at work and feel invisible, passed over, or underpaid. You want a real negotiation framework.
The Prompt
I'm [N] months back at work and I want to negotiate — for a raise, a promotion, more responsibility, or just to be seen. I need a real framework.
My context:
- Time back: [E.G., "6 months" / "1 year" / "2 years"]
- Issue: [E.G., "I haven't had a review" / "I was passed over for a promotion" / "I make less than peers" / "I'm doing the work of 2 people" / "I want flexibility and was told no"]
- Manager: [E.G., "supportive" / "not aware" / "I think they don't value me" / "new manager"]
- Company: [E.G., "startup, no formal reviews" / "mid-size" / "large corporation" / "nonprofit"]
- What I want: [E.G., "20% raise" / "promotion to [title]" / "flexible hours" / "remote" / "to be on the leadership track"]
- Leverage: [E.G., "I have a job offer" / "I'm a high performer" / "I have limited leverage" / "I can walk"]
Please give me:
1. The data: what the research says about motherhood penalty + the negotiation
2. The 'what to document' workbook (so I have receipts)
3. The script for asking for a raise (specific phrases)
4. The script for asking for a promotion
5. The script for asking for flexibility (remote, hours, etc.)
6. The 'I'm being asked to do more' script
7. The 'I have a job offer' leverage play (and the risks)
8. The 'I can't find another job right now' play
9. How to ask for sponsorship (not just mentorship)
10. When to leave (the 6-month signals it's time)
Important: I want to negotiate, not just complain.Example output
*"Motherhood penalty: real, well-documented, ~5-10% per child for white women, more for women of color. Negotiation: women ask as often as men, but get less when they ask. Document: wins, metrics, scope of work, 'above and beyond' examples. Scripts: 'I'd like to discuss my compensation given [my contributions, market rate, scope change].' 'I'm performing at [level X], and I'd like my title/compensation to reflect that.' 'I've researched market rate for this role in [area] and the range is [X].' Leverage: market research (levels.fyi, Glassdoor), competing offer (use carefully), unique value (only one who can do X, Y, Z). Sponsorship: someone who will fight for your promotion, not just advise. 'I can't find another job' play: focus on growth opportunities + flexible ask (training, conference, project). When to leave: when you've stopped growing, when your manager is the problem, when your work is no longer valued."*
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