Prompt 25: Baby Shower Decision + Plan

I'm [N] weeks pregnant and I need to decide about a baby shower.

My situation:
- Relationship with the person offering to host: [E.G., "my mom" / "my sister" / "my best friend" / "no one has offered and I'd need to plan it"]
- How I feel about showers: [E.G., "love them" / "low-key dread" / "neutral" / "already had one for first baby"]
- Family dynamic: [E.G., "complicated" / "supportive but big" / "small and intimate" / "long-distance"]
- Budget I'm willing to spend (or ask people to spend): [E.G., "$0 — please no gifts" / "dinner-only, no gifts" / "open registry"]
- Cultural expectations: [E.G., "in my culture showers are big and gift-heavy" / "we don't really do showers"]

Please give me:
1. A framework for "do I even want one" (because that's the first question)
2. If yes: what kind (in-person, virtual, sprinkle for second baby, diaper party, "sip and see" after birth, "nest" party where friends help set up)
3. The honest guest list (quality > quantity — too many people = worst shower)
4. A "what I actually need" registry approach (vs. the 100-item Babylist default)
5. How to communicate "no kids" / "no gifts" / "no [X]" without offending
6. Alternative: instead of a shower, ask for [specific help — postpartum meals, cleaning service, doula fund]
7. The "if family insists and I don't want it" script (because saying no is hard)

Important: I want help making this a joy, not a stress.